Dan Goes to the Dentist

Do you like going to the dentist? If we’re honest, many of us will say no, but we go anyway because we know it is important for our oral health. Having instruments poked in your mouth and a bright light in your eyes is not very comfortable, but we know that prevention is better than cure. And a lot cheaper. For most families regular check ups are just part of the normal routine, but for a child with oral sensory issues, it can be a challenging and stressful undertaking. Yesterday I took Dan to the dentist for a check and it actually went quite well, but it has taken a lot of persistence and patience to achieve. 

Autism comes with a number of challenges and one of those is sensory issues. Dan has oral sensitivity so anything associated with the mouth presents extra challenges. For years teeth cleaning has been a battle between Dan, me and the toothbrush. While I’m trying to get the toothbrush in, Dan is trying to get it out. In the early years we didn’t know Dan had autism, so we didn’t know what was going on and why teeth cleaning was such a trial. Later on, when Dan had been diagnosed, dentists recommended using an electric toothbrush and it did help because it gave a better clean in a quicker time. Anything for a shorter battle!

Patience and Understanding

 Since Dan doesn’t even like having the toothbrush in his mouth, then getting dental tools like a mirror or probe in there, is even more of a battle. Treating a patient with autism means you need to have a very patient and understanding dentist. You can’t just go to anybody. We have been fortunate over the years to have had pretty understanding dentists, but when we moved to Toowoomba there were so many to choose from. How do you find a patient and understanding dentist?  I had to spend quite some time researching. One essential requirement was the ability to have dental work completed under a General Anaesthetic (GA). Considering the challenge in just getting the check up done, there is absolutely no way you would ever be able to get any work done in the chair. I used to get really annoyed with those dental vouchers the government would send us for our children. They were absolutely useless to us because you couldn’t use them for any work done in a hospital. It discriminated against any family who has children with special needs. So over the years Dan has had a number of GAs for dental work. 

As luck would have it, the dental surgery we tried has been excellent and our persistence over the years has paid off. Dan has slowly got used to the dentist, and has learned to tolerate the mirror in his mouth as long as the dentist doesn’t mind Dan “helping” them with the mirror. Dan likes to hold the dentist’s hand when they are using the mirror. I think it’s so he can have some degree of control over where that thing is going in his mouth.  At least Dan no longer bites the mirror.

We have also been doing a lot of work with the Occupational Therapist (OT) on improving Dan’s teeth cleaning. Dentists always understood we did the best we could, under the circumstances, but increased access to Occupational Therapy has meant we can focus on some of these daily life skills that have been ignored over the years.  I think this has been one of the clearest benefits of the NDIS. Before NDIS we had such limited access to therapy, that speech and communication were always the focus. But now with extended and continual access to therapy, a lot more life skills can be addressed. For so long, life skills that we take for granted have been neglected for many people with disabilities. It takes a long time, therefore, to teach, learn and practise new skills, but in the long run it will lead to greater independence and quality of life. For a lot of people with disabilities, we are playing catch up here – catching up on all the skills they never had an opportunity to develop. So it is essential that we fight any attempt to reduce the amount of individual funding participants receive. After years of neglect – they need it.    

Now cleaning your teeth seems like a pretty straightforward thing but with Dan it is a task that has to be broken down into many small steps. We have always had a problem with Dan swallowing the tooth paste, so the OT has spent a lot of time teaching Dan how to spit water, how to hold the water in his mouth and then spit, slowing building up to the point when Dan could keep the toothpaste in his mouth without wanting to get rid of it straight away. You wouldn’t think it would be such a complicated process. We even have an illustrated chart so all the support workers know how to guide Dan in cleaning his teeth. But the work has been paying off, because on our recent check up Dan came away with a clean bill of oral health. No need for a GA this time. Yay!

You know, it doesn’t matter how long you have been dealing with autism, there is always something new to learn. We didn’t realise until just recently that Dan’s oral sensitivity also impacts his eating. We had long figured out that he didn’t like certain textures of food so we avoided them. And Dan has always required some supervision when eating because he will try to swallow food without chewing properly or eat things he’s not supposed to like the watermelon rind.  We would just always say, “chew and swallow,” “one mouthful at a time,” and “finished” when he got down to the rind. 

Dan’s oral sensitivity has been with him since birth. We didn’t know it at the time because he wasn’t diagnosed with autism until the was three, but he was always a poor feeder when he was a baby. I eventually just had to bottle feed him. We didn’t learn until much later that it was due to underdeveloped muscles in the mouth and jaw. It is why he also has difficulty with speech. With lots of practise some words have become clearer, but many words are quite unclear or he abbreviates them, leaving middle sounds out of multi-syllable words. The low muscle tone and lack of strength in the jaw muscles also affect his chewing and swallowing. So now we have new recommendations for his diet that we have to come to terms with. It’s a never ending journey with Dan, but we wouldn’t have it any other way. 

Life is never dull on the spectrum.

6 thoughts on “Dan Goes to the Dentist

  1. Poor Dan I will never complain about having to go to the dentist again. How ridiculous that those vouchers could not be used for a child with special needs, for too long we have failed kids like Dan.

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    • Yes, I know a number of families who’ve ended up forking out lots of money to have their kids dental work done under a GA. I don’t even know if they still send out those vouchers or whether they have made allowances for special needs. I expect probably not. The public dental scheme is just abysmal and poor oral health can lead to so many other health problems too. Special needs is always the last to be thought of, if at all.


  2. Gosh! That’s a lot to consider. For a brief moment in time I was a dental nurse, but back in the early 70s, autism was not on our radar. (This sounds harsh, but…) It was a matter of ‘catch your kid’, then, ‘get a mouth guard in quick before they bite you.’ Fluoride was either not introduced in Adelaide then, or had not yet enough impact – so cavities in young children who loved soft drinks and lollies was a BIG problem. I saw one little girl whose second teeth would come through already ruined (which I think is also the case with Tharunicaa, the youngest child of the Biloela asylum seeker family, for different nutrition and vitamin reasons).
    I had my impacted wisdom teeth out in the chair via an injection of valium. I was conscious, but not rational. But that wouldn’t help in Dan’s case, as there is still the challenge of the needle.
    Regular checkups are great, but every time I pay the bill I think of those who cannot afford this prevention. The loss of useful teeth then leads to dietary problems, which leads to health problems. A vicious cycle which the limited access to free dental health barely touches.

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    • Absolutely Gwen. I grew up in Adelaide and I remember taking a daily fluoride tablet which must have helped because I never had a filling in any of my baby teeth. Dan has always had a healthy diet – lollies and soft drink were banned, only for very special occasions. Dan doesn’t even like soft drink – doesn’t like the bubbles up his nose! Those early years are so important for good oral health. I had my wisdom teeth out under a GA, but I find I can just tolerate treatment in the chair, but with the needles and the noise, there’s just no way anyone like Dan would be able to do it – and that’s not something they can change. Unfortunately, NDIS doesn’t cover that.

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  3. Learning so much about the Spectrum thanks to your posts 🙂
    I am terrified of the dentist and always have been. I have an over developed gag reflex so if anything foreign goes in my mouth I bite down hard. One dentist actually had to sit on my chest to look into my mouth. However, I had no choice but to get my teeth looked at 2 years ago. They were very kind, patient, and understanding, as well as fascinated by my phobia. I am now able to do the six monthly clean and scale thing though still require the drugs – as many as you can give please…

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    • I think dentists, at least the ones more recently trained, have come a long way in caring for people with anxieties and special needs. I think that’s why disability advocacy is so important, because it leads to understanding and consideration across all of life’s contexts. Glad you’re enjoying learning more about the spectrum – just fascinating, sometimes, the way Dan’s brain works!

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